About Date Like A Grownup:
When her first dive into post-divorce dating resulted in a splash-down at the shallow end of the pool, Heather climbed out, dried off and refocused on the deeper truths of mid-life relationship-building. When other would-be daters expressed their own confusion over ambiguous messages and awkward encounters—and their disappointment over repeated failure to find a lasting relationship, she recognized some commonalities. While the romantic goal was often unchanged from the initial starry-eyed search, the path now wound through the demands of single parenting, busy careers and social media. It was littered with misleading profile photos and unrealistic expectations, and for many, a holographic sand timer hovered over the whole process, leading them to race forward without clear direction. There were bound to be a few bruises, and Date Like a Grownup: Anecdotes, Admissions of Guilt & Advice Between Friends is the lemonade squeezed from the "Oops," "Ow" and "Uh oh" moments of dozens of these single men and women.
"Dugan says, "Loneliness makes fools of us all," but she presents her readers with practical advice, encouragement and a toolkit for moving past the loneliness and foolishness toward a relationship built for the future. As a manual, "Date Like A Grownup" is well-organized, entertaining, provoking, engaging and--importantly--motivational... She wraps all of this in her unique brand of humor--which both makes her point and reduces the tension inherent in midlife dating 'desperation."
A finalist in both the USA Book Awards and the Next Generation Indie Book Awards for Non-fiction/Relationship books, Date Like a Grownup: Anecdotes, Admissions of Guilt & Advice Between Friends examines the impact of loneliness and social obsolescence on men and women in their second single lives. It targets root causes for misery-perpetuating choices and provides punctuating proof that looking for love from a place of isolation is as unwise as grocery shopping on an empty stomach.
Unlike many other relationship manuals, this book does not guide the reader through game-playing and winning temporary partners. Instead, readers will develop a personalized strategy for building a life foundation that facilitates growing a "right fit" relationship. Topics include: effective filtering, social media and online dating, how to avoid isolation and the strategic growth of a larger social network. Written with unique wit and affirming good humor, Date Like a Grownup employs engaging narratives such as "The Percocet Proposal" and "Need Meets Greed" to underline specific dating principles and demonstrate that none of us are immune to bad choices.
Date Like a Grownup serves as an effective launch point for Heather's talk/discussions to adult singles and for media interviews on topics related to mid-life dating and the essential human need for connection. Reader and listener emails and follow-up interviews with the subjects of the book's often humorous "From the Field" anecdotes provide ongoing insight to the mid-life relationship "do-over." For information on booking Heather as a speaker or guest, please include "Event" or "Media" in the contact form subject line.